Wednesday, January 21, 2009
Dealing with Death
The year is not even a month old and my family has had to say good-bye to my Grandma and now my Grandpa. At my Grandma’s funeral, he proclaimed how he no longer wanted to live, now that she was gone. Loving someone so much, that life just quits on you. It must be an amazing feeling to love someone so much. Grandpa Jasper only made it 18 days after his wife passed. I believe for him, that it was 18 days too long. He was the only Grandpa I really ever knew. He was my Grandma’s 7th husband and he stuck it out for 50 years with her. He wasn’t technically my real Grandpa, but he was my REAL Grandpa. My Dad’s birth father, I only met a few times. Grandpa Jasper was there for birthdays, holidays, baptisms, etc. He was a crazy old guy that loved getting into trouble. He was always getting yelled at by my Grandma, or my mother. My Mom once caught him in our living room throwing popcorn seeds in the fireplace and having my younger brothers try to catch them as they popped, in the crackling fire. He always made me giggle, cuz he just didn’t care who liked him. He would say what he wanted, he would usually get yelled after, but his expression never changed…he just carried on. I am happy he is now with Grandma, he had no desire to live without her. I have no more Grandparents now; they have all gone to a bigger party. I know my Grandma and Grandpa are looking down or up sipping a whisky and laughing right now.
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I have always thought that when my dad's mom finally passed, the first thing she did was chew-out grandpa for passing first. Its nice to think of them together, as it should be.
My sincerest condolences.
50 years together, that is wonderful. I am glad he and Grandma are together again drinking their whisky.
sorry for your loss.
Sad for you - so soon after your Grandma - but for him a happy reunion. Bless them both.
peace
My sympathies sageweb. Your Grandpa sounds like he was a great old guy.
Your stories and memories of him are filled with love. Hugs to you. he is where he wanted to be, with her his love.
I'm sorry for your loss. He sounds like a wonderful man.
i have this mental image of him in valhalla teaming up with loki making trouble for your grandma and getting hell over it..but im sure they are with the goddess...funny how strong my faith is on that one..
18 days....so very sorry sage. Yup, 2009 is starting out sad..... except for yesterday.
I'm so sorry to hear that Sage.
They had a long life together.
I guess Grandpa just needed to be with her in heaven.
They're together again. I'm sorry for your loss, but glad that love that deep was only parted by just days.
So sorry, Sage...but glad that they are together again. My thoughts are with you and your family, and I hope you will find comfort in knowing that they are both at peace (and having a laugh while drinking whiskey). *smiles*
Oh, honey, I'm so sorry.
Oh Sage! What an amazing thing to bear witness to a couple who loved so long and so strong! I am so glad that they are together again, but sad for your family's loss. Big hugs to you.
Sorry for the losses. Gparents are the best. Been without mine for a good 20 yrs but they really shaped who I am and their spirit still lives on inside me...even if it's just memory, it's great.
I am sorry for your loss, but it sounds like you have very fond memories of both your Grandparents and how lucky are they to have found each other.
There is never a good time for these things to happen, but it is especially difficult when they happen in close succession. Sorry for you loss.
Big hug, sweetie. He and your grandmother sound like such fun people. I love that story about the popcorn kernels! Brilliant. I want to do that now. How lucky they were to have found each other and to have 50 years together. I'm glad they were there for you as role models of craziness, love, and acceptance.
Please accept my sincere condolences on the passing of your grandparents.
So sorry to hear of your loss, Sageweb. Imagine being with someone 50 years... No wonder he didn't want to live without her.
That was really nice. It makes me feel good about Grandma and Grandpa. Michel didn't think it was sad at all when Grandpa died, because he knew that is where Grandpa wanted to be. At the funeral, he asked him if he wanted to go for a drive sometime, and Grandpa told him he better make it soon, cause he wouldn't be around long. He never made it. I can still remember Jasper and Michel sitting around when Michel first moved here, and neither one of them understanding each other, and they had these long conversations... It was great. Thanks for thinking of Grandma and Grandpa... Love you
Ummmm...7 husbands???!!! Your gramma sounded like Jackiesue!
I'm so sorry to hear of your loss. This hasn't been a great year for you so far, has it?
It sounds like Grandpa Jasper was a kick in the pants and deeply loved by you. My sincere condolences Sage.
I am sooo sorry for your losses, Sage. Your REAL grandfather sounds like he was a hoot -- and I hope both of your grandparents are enjoying the whisky.
(((S)))
He was definitely your real grandpa. My dad is my real dad, but he adopted me when I was four. My mom used to tell me, "Anyone can be a father, but it takes someone special to be a daddy." I think that goes for grandpas, too.
I'm very sorry about the loss of your grandparents, Sage.
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